tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post9105315486864210332..comments2023-06-26T08:43:42.640-04:00Comments on The Bates Motel: Communication BreakdownBeccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963099760885760598noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-18421401904801008002014-02-10T18:31:55.384-05:002014-02-10T18:31:55.384-05:00I have a couple thoughts on this.
1) yes, the tea...I have a couple thoughts on this.<br /><br />1) yes, the teacher should be responsive to this issue for you and I don't see how they are not responsive if you have asked them<br /><br />2) as a teacher, I can tell you that there is no time to write a paragraph. There is time to write a quick sentence<br /><br />3) I have used these notebooks and sometimes the one sentence does not get done<br /><br />4) BUT USUALLY the one sentence/two sentences DOES get done<br /><br />5) it does provide a stepping stone for parents of kids like yours, who don't dialogue much with offered info, to start the conversation<br /><br />6) I hope this gets better :)<br /><br />7) Re: the term bullying. . . .sometimes a child will say, I hate your shoes, to another child. Then a parent will say, THAT IS BULLYING. . .well, no, not really. It's kids being kids. It is also unkind. But the word bullying gets thrown around a lot. It needs to be saved for the true meaning of the word.<br /><br />8) I love your blog. Thanks for sharing your heart. <br /><br />9) Happy Valentine's Day!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-54733920913202325132014-02-09T14:11:50.229-05:002014-02-09T14:11:50.229-05:00I so hope the communication lapse gets cleaned up ...I so hope the communication lapse gets cleaned up for you. We too love to see a glimpse into the girls day. Good luck, let us know how it goes.Rochellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11866781944242761406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-86689287540878191112014-02-07T14:04:26.726-05:002014-02-07T14:04:26.726-05:00Anonymous - thank you for your comment! Actually,...Anonymous - thank you for your comment! Actually, to be honest, I'd prefer if her teachers *didn't* read this post. I wrote it because I've been becoming increasingly concerned about things Samantha has said lately. What she says is unreliable at best, but sometimes I can't help if it might be coming from somewhere real. And, coupled with the decreased communication we've had over the last 4 months, I feel like there's a bit of a void, just *something* missing for us. Her aide was always able to keep great reports in her notebook. When the notebook was taken away, we were promised a better, more efficient method of communication. What we got was an anorexic adaptation of what we'd had before, and nothing else. I also think the aide is no longer writing much of the notes - I think it's primarily the resource teacher. We've requested that the notebook be brought back, although admittedly without too much urgency at the time. The request went ignored, or forgotten, or something. We weren't too bothered yet, but when it became increasingly clear that it wasn't coming back, we decided that we would push harder. I wrote this post before we took further action to get it. My husband picks Samantha up from school, and does have a few words with whomever walks her out, but it could be any number of people that comes out with her, and usually the conversation has to be very brief because of the chaos of all the parents standing around waiting to gather their children from the side door of the school. I'm certain that nobody would ignore our questions or requests if we asked - I have written this post directly after some concerns came to light, and before we have made any additional requests. I hope that all makes sense! I will certainly write a follow up once I get more information. :-) Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14963099760885760598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-73837168493253344072014-02-07T13:04:10.452-05:002014-02-07T13:04:10.452-05:00As a teacher of both regular and special needs chi...As a teacher of both regular and special needs children, this concerns me. Having followed your blog from time to time, I think you are saying this because you want her teachers to see it and read it. But I have to ask what you have done to ask for better communication? If the daily notes were not enough, have you said something? I know that if my parents need communication, it is given to them. If I need to communicate with a parent, I get it done. But I have had situations with both regular and SPED children where the parent waits until they are so frustrated before they speak up. You need to remember that your child is not the only one in the class, nor, according to your blog is she the only special needs child in the class. It can be difficult to really "keep up" with a daily journal. IT IS A LOT OF WORK! Didn't you say that someone walks her out every day? Why can't you talk or ask questions then? I can't believe her case manager or teacher would ignore your request for more info if you asked. Is the teacher ignoring your requests? That is another story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-36280274229787087352014-02-07T12:12:45.401-05:002014-02-07T12:12:45.401-05:00This post made me cry- at work. These are my fear...This post made me cry- at work. These are my fear for Izzy when she starts school. When I ask Izzy how her day was, I know her current response is always- Yeah. I love when we are able to get additional information from her teachers. I hope you see changes and get some answers.The Holt'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06524688846854596555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-38957640256935653782014-02-06T23:32:16.711-05:002014-02-06T23:32:16.711-05:00We're not there yet, but we will be soon and I...We're not there yet, but we will be soon and I just wanted you to know how much I appreciated this post. <3Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02088954144281629542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-84143870367802585072014-02-06T21:38:16.535-05:002014-02-06T21:38:16.535-05:00This makes me sad as well. Everything I dread abou...This makes me sad as well. Everything I dread about elementary school! Keep us posted... I surely hope it gets better! <br />P.s. I love the picture of you two!Denisemomof4https://www.blogger.com/profile/07840343319711075597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-87313467080572237142014-02-06T13:34:38.906-05:002014-02-06T13:34:38.906-05:00We are in a similar boat as usual. I thought kind...We are in a similar boat as usual. I thought kindy was a black box but 2cd grade is a new level of not knowing what is going on. The only time we get notes about Cate is when she a behavior black mark then it is vague at best and somehow Cate never know why she got it. I've been in for meetings a couple times but I really believe our teacher this year are just too overworked and busy to deal with extra communication. It is sad - unlike previous years I have no idea when tests are, no idea the names of other kids in the class, or any concept of how she is really doing except to feel that she is getting in trouble a lot more than last year and not wanting to go to school pretty much every day. I hate the change and that more independence and less communication for our girls.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05629881773181999504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-39409577945445336482014-02-06T13:02:23.459-05:002014-02-06T13:02:23.459-05:00I have three nieces in a Loudon County elementary ...I have three nieces in a Loudon County elementary school. Just a little older than Sammie, and not special needs, per se, but some lesser issues. I think part of the problem is that the whole mean girl thing seems to start really early now, maybe even to some extent in 2nd grade. I know the oldest, who is just in 4th grade, but very tiny, has been suffering from this for a number of years. She is very social and has a large group of friends from dancing, but doesn't seem to fit in as well in the classroom setting. The school population is very ethnically diverse, and while not economically struggling at all, it seems that groups are sticking to themselves and have no place for the tiny dancer. Her twin sisters, in 3rd grade face many of the same issues. Given her changes, I would push for an exception to allow you inside the school whenever you want to be there. I know the IEP process isn't always great - my oldest had one and every time I thought we had something worked out, one or more teachers would balk and refuse to cooperate. Best of luck to you and Sammie. I enjoy reading about your experiences.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642642768981217473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-9584745432381206702014-02-06T12:02:15.107-05:002014-02-06T12:02:15.107-05:00in our school we cant walk the kids to their class...in our school we cant walk the kids to their classrooms, but i talked to the principal, and they know is different, i used to walk Elias to his class, but now at 3rd he goes alone, now i walk Eva to hers, and i will do it until i know she can goes directly to his classroom by herself<br />i think you should talk to someone who can give you this permission, should be like part of the modifications on the daily basis for her? <br />aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00487809628835627113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-21200904679023392102014-02-06T11:24:09.382-05:002014-02-06T11:24:09.382-05:00This makes me sad. We are just getting into our tr...This makes me sad. We are just getting into our transition stage and these are all my fears. I hope there is something that can be resolved. Isn't it about what's best for the child? It doesn't seem like this is her best environment. Hugs momma.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02259452307333691994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-56471270606417898212014-02-06T11:12:42.301-05:002014-02-06T11:12:42.301-05:00I guess I don't understand why you aren't ...I guess I don't understand why you aren't allowed to walk your daughter to class. In our school parents of children of all ages walk their kids to class. It's only chaotic for a few minutes. In the younger grades, the classes line up in the hallway outside their classrooms. We walk our kids to the line, kiss them goodbye and walk out of the school. You get "take the temperature", so to speak, as far as how your child is being received when they walk up and join their classmates. It works really, really well and gives parents and administrators/teachers and students a feeling of community. As far as the communication notebook ask for it to be written into the IEP. Communication is key. It helps everyone- the student, the parents and the teachers. Good luck! I hope you can find a workable solution and I hope that you can find it quickly.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13861699744637674740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-39229057388038796552014-02-06T10:49:46.810-05:002014-02-06T10:49:46.810-05:00This is not cool, not cool at all. Something must...This is not cool, not cool at all. Something must be going on to change Sammi like that. When I read the part about her saying that her friends were allergic to her.....someone HAD to have said that to her. I'll go out on a limb here and say this: I think some bullying might be going on. It just doesn't sound right at all.<br /><br />I HATE that teachers/schools aren't providing us with the tools necessary to know what goes on with our children. We were told in August that the communication notebook from previous year would be a no-go this year. I had to actually have an IEP meeting last month to install communication--either with a sheet I made up or with an email--once a week. Even so, it's so vague, I might as well talk to my washing machine to get information. Frankly, I'm pissed. This is nuts! My kid literally doesn't talk, so if I don't ask someone else, I'll never know what happens at school and I don't understand how the "team" doesn't get that.<br /><br />Sorry--I'm a little heated about all of this. And I can't wait until school is over and Owen gets a new team, one I've heard is excellent and communicates daily. I don't get it....I don't understand how something so similar and so necessary can change drastically from year to year.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17913754866057778005noreply@blogger.com