tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post2124763505870713402..comments2023-06-26T08:43:42.640-04:00Comments on The Bates Motel: Wednesday Special Needs Blog Hop: Downs Kid? (and other words of brilliance)Beccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963099760885760598noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-90831529198972025612012-06-06T20:15:12.038-04:002012-06-06T20:15:12.038-04:00The "high" functioning and "low&quo...The "high" functioning and "low" functioning thing has always bothered me...It's simply not a fair thing to say when describing people with Ds. Either you have Ds or you do not...And it affects each person with it differently. They have different strengths and different weaknesses, that does not mean one is smarter or higher functioning than the other.<br /><br />I had a relative come visit not to long ago...After seeing Russell they said to me he must not have "full blown Ds" He must only have it a little bit cause he seemed so smart...LOL...I find I must correct people...But at the same time, I need to be able to laugh things off and not be offended.<br /><br />Great post Becca :)JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16040699928110444013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-73575004856106788642012-06-06T18:53:44.068-04:002012-06-06T18:53:44.068-04:00There really is a lot of PCness in the special nee...There really is a lot of PCness in the special needs community. And even now, when I am very conscious of it, I still feel like I say the wrong things at times. I am very forgiving with strangers who you can tell have good intentions. Not as much with family that have been corrected repeatedly....Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06474584473012742915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-48944324749417445962012-06-06T14:58:52.184-04:002012-06-06T14:58:52.184-04:00So flipping true and well said.So flipping true and well said.Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08985688905432556253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-84998370103997723502012-06-06T14:54:31.264-04:002012-06-06T14:54:31.264-04:00Thanks for commenting on my blog, Becca!
I love ...Thanks for commenting on my blog, Becca! <br /><br />I love your blog.Samantha is so beautiful! I can't wait until Arlynn is her age. :)Arlynn's Sisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11426160176592162882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-20608125814357353562012-06-06T11:51:36.347-04:002012-06-06T11:51:36.347-04:00Hmmmm....
Being a step mom I guess I'm not a...Hmmmm....<br /><br /> Being a step mom I guess I'm not as attached and bugged to how my daughter is described. It wasn't until I read somewhere that calling a child a "downs child" or something like that is derogatory. Soooo I decided to get out of that habit. BUT I am not really offended when I hear those terms.<br /><br /> Just last week her dentist referred to "downs kids" a few different times in our conversation. I recognized his detachment from the disability and that's it. <br /><br />I don't know, maybe this will change one day. I see it as a way to classify our kids. As to the terms "low functioning/high functioning" I had no idea some would see those terms as demeaning. I suppose I'll have to rethink that. <br /><br />BTW, thanks for commenting on my blog. I really appreciated what you said and posted a reply.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15096082663723665916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-84765945636034003152012-06-06T10:39:20.725-04:002012-06-06T10:39:20.725-04:00this is a loaded topic for sure, and i struggle my...this is a loaded topic for sure, and i struggle myself with how to handle a (for me) nails-on-the-chalkboard situation when matched with good intention. last week at a support group for parents of kids with DS (in switzerland), one of the mothers and active advocates in the group repeatedly used the word "downy" in describing a conversation she had about seeing another child with down syndrome. i had honestly never heard this term used before and i took the opportunity to open up the subject based on questioning if this is a common term used in the german language, also saying that it feels uncomfortable for me to hear it. many others expressed that they didn't feel comfortable with it either, as with with "downs"- and they also couldn't really say why. a couple other people said that they found "downy" to be an affectionate term and not at all denigrative... so opinions definitely vary.<br /><br />i have also often heard parents in this group refer to their children without DS as the "healthy" and "normal" ones, which i find very dangerous and misleading.<br /><br />i was shocked to hear that two of the women in our small group last week were informed of their child's DS diagnosis by doctors telling them their child had mongolism.... and i remembered myself that a VERY well-intended neighbor of mine said to me when i saw her after livia's birth: "one of my good friends also has a mongoloid child!" it must have been a stable hormonal moment for me, because i said." oh, you mean down syndrome? ...that term is not used anymore."<br /><br />thx for sharing your thoughts about "low/high functioning".tekealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06624164330376848455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-80544492212399162962012-06-06T10:34:03.071-04:002012-06-06T10:34:03.071-04:00i really dislike when people think my daughter is ...i really dislike when people think my daughter is low functioning just because she can't talk. my daughter is very bright but shes got autism and apraxia so it makes it harder for her. another one i dislike is the whole she looks so normal. thats because she is normal lol.charityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13465670616967864180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1665234671536662968.post-7770886241548764862012-06-06T09:35:22.839-04:002012-06-06T09:35:22.839-04:00Beautifully written, Becca!Beautifully written, Becca!Anna Theurerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06937391910402532608noreply@blogger.com